Staying between the lines of life is hard work. Keeping from throwing everything away is hard work. It is easy to stop and do nothing. It's easy to give up. But, something has to keep us motivated. We have to know who we are and be ourselves. We have to stop hiding and be present for those and ourselves to profit from whatever it is we strive for. We have to keep breaking downs walls if we want to be greater than who we are. But in the end, we can't overwork ourselves to the point to where we give up. Don't give up! Keep moving forward.
As you are looking for yourself it takes getting lost to be found. Getting lost in something you don't normally do. If you don't like talking in public, then talking in public is a prime example of something you should do to find yourself. Get lost people!