At times I find myself looking forward to a time in the future. A time when something is going to be different. A change I’m not even sure exists. Searching for the moment when my life is supposed to begin.
Addiction. We all go through it. Been there, done that, right? I'm there now, coffee, early morning, have to have it, or do I?
Being bombarded with everyone’s problems because they don’t want to deal with it can get you down. It can cause you to develop stress and make you think your brain is mush. There is something you can do about it. When others want to pass their struggles on to you so they can get back to what they were doing - their stress-free life - and leave you to it. Show them what you are made of.
Growing up, on St. Patrick’s Day, wearing green meant not being pinched by your peers. Who want’s to be pinched anyway? I remember hiding my green color so that when I was pinched I could pinch back. That’s how the game was played, right? Well, even if it wasn’t, I still enjoyed annoying my friends.
When I was a kid I got myself caught up with a bunch of red wasps. It wasn’t a pleasant experience and I hope it never happens to me again or to anyone for that matter. You never know how your day will turn out even if you are having the best day of your life. It’s funny how things turn out. How you can go from being fearless to afraid to fearless again.
Open your eyes and just see what happens today. Let the day take charge and become only the observer, you never know what might happen. You may fall into a bucket of shit and come out smelling like roses. Who knows and it’s possible.
I've been on a mission to get a little more organized, to get more family time and exercise, to write many more interesting blog post, and to read more books. It's nothing hard, I just haven't put myself in the right gear to do it all organizationally.
The following is what I wrote back in 2015 for the book, 20 Recipes for Personal Development, I wanted to share a bit with you as you’re unable to get a copy of the book just yet. Thanks for reading.
Many times we mistakenly think that the grass may be greener on the other side. That having someone else’s life would be better. Having tons of money in the bank will make us happier. Living one way compared to another. It’s never that way and we can be sure it’s only an illusion. There are cause and effects that go with any circumstance, every choice you make. Those moments when you can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Finding where your heart lies is a lifelong journey. People all across the world are looking for the next great thing or moment in their lives. There is so much to do and so much keeping us busy, grabbing our attention damn near 24/7. How do we have the time to even find where our heart lies? How can we feel important?
Inside of me, there are two dogs, one good, and one evil. The evil dog and the good dog fight all day long. Which dog wins?
Do you have thoughts that you just can’t shake? Is something always on your mind that keeps you from being everything you know you can be? I bet you do, hell, we all do. We all have some sort of trouble or pain in the neck problem that we just want to get away from. The time has come to shake those problems once and for all. That’s the type of day I’ve had today. I finally got my devil removed and I feel great about it.
You think you can do something and you will. You think you can’t and you won’t. When we set our minds to something, we figure out how to make it happen. Sometimes, just us talking about it get’s it done.
When my daughter was born I couldn’t take my eyes off her. It was the most amazing thing in the world. Watching the birth of your child is something I recommend every man to do. I couldn’t believe how she just unwrapped before my eyes. I smiled a true smile of happiness at that moment. It was also at that moment I begin questioning if I could do it? If I could raise a child? If I could carry her safely?
At birth, we are born screaming out of the one mouth God has given us. And with the two ears we have, we hear the strange sounds that no longer come from outside our mother’s belly, but within our new world. Everything is new and our old world is gone. We develop in the womb and grow in a strange world. The world we only begin to know and understand before we are born into another new world. It sounds like life is birth and then death, but it is so much more.
When you’re in a tight spot and the world seems to be closing in on you, remember to expand your mind. With simply visualizing a stretchable world nothing will be able to crush you. You have the ability to crush any difficult situation with the one tool everyone is born with - your mind. Look at whatever jam you may be in and find the door or window, then open it up. And believe me, there is a door or a window because you have the greatest gift that can be given, freedom of choice, choose to see the opening.
Every man needs a break and I’m not talking about a Kit-Kat kind of break. Although a Kit-Kat does sound good right now. Anyway, when I say “man” I mean mankind. Men and Women alike need to take a break sometimes. More often than not. We need to get away from our daily lives to break the monotony. The same old routine gets old after a while, we need to step away and take a deep breath.
Giants are unusually large beings or buildings or for the sake of this post, problems. Any of our small problems seem at times like giant problems. A bill not getting paid, an appointment missed or simply not finding your keys. These at times are battles we think are giant problems, when in reality they are not giants at all. Grant it, if you let them escalate then yes, they will become giant problems.
When you are giving yourself a talking to - we know you all do it - why does it have to be negative? Why can’t you tell yourself it’s all going to be okay, everything will work out? Why? I said it before that life goes on until it doesn’t. There is no reason you should be belittling yourself. You are important even if you think you are not. Start by telling yourself you are because it’s true. Life is amazing. Don’t believe me? Stop a minute and look around, focus only on what’s going on around you. Look at the lights. The colors. The animals - whether your pets or not. Look at your pictures. Do you see it? Life is amazing. Life is what you make it.
I love telling stories of how things happen for a reason. I know everything is written the way it supposed to be. You are on the path you are chosen for, even if it’s the path you don’t want. The end game is always ahead of you. You are who you are so that someone else could be who they are and vice-versa.
I don’t know what your passion is but I know I love to write. Actually, to be truly honest, I love to think. Writing is just how I release my thoughts, I “write” them down. I enjoy a wide range of things, thinking and writing tops the list, by far. Let’s get to what brought you here, to begin with - How to find your professional passion.
For some unknown reason, I feel I need to move into something different. I’ve been posting daily content on my website for about two months now and I feel like I’m holding myself back. I’m not producing the content I wanted, such as writing an actual book. I started combining blog post and then adding them to Amazon, but I still feel a type of void. As if I’m not allowing myself my full potential. I feel I could do bigger and better things, but what?
You can talk all the talk you want, but it doesn’t mean shit unless you’re taking action on the words you’re laying out. Words don’t mean anything without some type of action behind them. You can say you are going to the store, but if you don’t take action and go, your words are just simply words, meaningless letters thrown together to produce sounds. You have to walk the walk if you are going to talk the talk!
Where is the delete button? Or, better yet, where’s the fast-forward button? If only, if only, we had these special buttons. Just imagine what we would do, the happiness we would feel to delete people or things out of our lives. To fast-forward the moments in our lives we dread. Joy to the world if we had our little delete and fast-forward buttons.
Who are you meant to be? A store clerk greeting every customer by name? A truck driver hauling goods across the country. No matter who it is you are, be you!
Let’s just give up and throw in the towel! Have you ever felt that way? I’m sure you have.
Sometimes we spend our days working toward our goals and at the end of the each day, when we realize we didn’t reach the moment we were looking for, we just want to give up. We got close, it was tough and we just don’t want to continue on, but, we don’t want to give it up completely, either. Or do we? Damn, we should have been done yesterday, right?
Learn how to do what you want and do that for the rest of your life. If you're hungry enough and want to change your life, then learn to change it. Wake up and do things differently. Feed your hunger the knowledge it needs to thrive. Ask yourself if what you are doing is getting the results you want! Is it? If it is, do that for the rest of your life or until you’ve reached the point in your life where you are where you want to be. But, I suggest you keep moving, stay hungry, learn something new.
Life is a revolving door of change. Change can come from mistakes, and mistakes can happen on purpose. Making mistakes is how we learn in this rapidly changing but never changing world, by trial-and-error! If you’re making a cake and it fails, turn it into pudding.
We all know that life can be unpleasant at times and it may be difficult to control those times. We can scream or point a pretend gun to our heads or we could spit in the face of our foes. The outcome will be the same, more unpleasantness. I know you don’t want that!
It starts with responsibilities. You have to own your bad decisions, your mistakes, any and all the bad situations you control. Ownership is leadership!
Death comes in many forms, not just at the end of our lives. You could be living in a kind of death today! We live our lives in chapters, and there is always the next chapter. Where we fail in today's world is we find a chapter we like and remain in it. This is living in a kind of death!
When I started this blog I had other ideas. Not about a path to greatness. I wanted to help people yes. But I was going to achieve that by writing about computer stuff. Showing people how to fix their screen or how to download a better web browser. The truth is, I'm just not as passionate about that as am about helping people be self-aware. About helping people find the path that's right for them. A path that is within them. So, without further ado... A Path To Greatness!
The search for wisdom is never too far away! The lord has programmed us all with the wisdom that is needed to succeed at anything!
Most of us don't know what we are doing. We get in line and wait our turn like the sheep we are! We don't ask questions and sometimes we don't even know why we are in line! Who is your master? Surely you’re not thinking for yourself, are you?
When your back is up against the wall and it appears that there is nothing you can do, look within yourself! In there somewhere you'll find what matters the most to you. All your deepest thoughts are what control your most passionate feelings. Deep within our heart sits our desires. Those feelings are what life is all about. Life is the most amazing thing we are all given and we all take it for granted! Like we get unlimited lives!
In a perfect world, everyone is happy and doing what they love. They wake up and pop out of bed without second thoughts of skipping work or feelings of dread! We do the things we love and dream about doing all day! There is never any complaining, ever! Everyone gets along and enjoy cooking out and having the time of their lives! In a perfect world, everything seems to go our way! In a perfect world!
Turns out, the universe doesn't give a shit about you! It's true, the universe doesn't care if you fail! Guess what, though, it doesn't care if you succeed either! We are only little specks of dirt on specks of dirt! You aren't shit! I mean it, you are worth something to someone, at least I hope you are!
If you are not 100% committed to your business or whatever it is you are doing, don't do it! It's not worth your time! Time is valuable, it's something you can't buy and you can't make any more of! So don't waste it!
I see so many people losing themselves in their dreams of a better life. So lost that they do not live in a reality they want but live in a reality they are sold. The negative energy the surrounds that reality keeps them scratching the surface for more. Because they are not getting what they really truly want, instead they are only getting bits and pieces and are left hungry for more.
In order for you to win, you have to put in the work. You can't win if you don't do! It's physically impossible! Winning isn't easy! Ask every winner and they'll tell you it's tough! If you want to win at work or at school or win at playing a game, you have to put in the work, mentally!
You know what really needs to be said! Yeah, that's not a question because you know what really needs to be said! You know what you want, deep down, you know, it's just hard to pull it out! Hard to say it. Fear of failure. Fear of success! I get that! I can relate to that!
Stop just talking about doing great things and do them! If you're looking to be the person you always wanted to be then you're not being that person! Don't look for yourself, be yourself!
You've heard it all your life, keep trying! Don't give up! The problem with "keep trying" is that it's all you'll every do. Try. Get up, try again! Blah! Same old fucking routine! Let's "do" something about it.
Success is different to a lot of people. Most view a success as making a ton of money, some view a success as doing what they love. What does a success mean to you? Have you ever defined what a success is to you? Do it now!
When are you going to start being you? I bet you haven't even begun to figure that one out! You haven't got up off your ass and clarified who it is you want to be! Why Not? Get up and don't make excuses!
You've heard it all before. How Jesus healed the sick and gave sight to the blind! He has forgiven those you trespassed against him. We all can agree he was a good man! Is a good man. The second son of God! We pray to him almost daily right? But does he really heal? Or does he show you how to heal?
There is so much shit that we are bombed with every day that keeps us from thinking. Thinking for ourselves. We don't really truly think for ourselves anymore. We are controlled by the media. Whether it social or not. Our thoughts are not our own anymore.
Changing negative thoughts into positive thoughts is like the sun rising in the morning. When the sun rises it kills the darkness. The positive kills the negative. There can not be darkness where there is light. That's why negative thoughts live in the shadows. They are always there. As long as you don't shine any light on them, they'll stay there.
When you want something bad enough, you put in the work. Sometimes, though, the work we put in is too much! We keep feeding ourselves that eventually, we want to give up! Throw in the towel and say fuck it! We've scratched our itch so much it's bleeding. It's time to back off.
Over the years of our life, we've created these walls. For whatever reasons these walls protect us. We may have a wall up that could keep us from moving forward in life. Because we don't want to lose what we have and protecting it keeps us from going anywhere. Keeps us from moving at all.
I know you woke up this morning not giving a damn about nobody but yourself. You got up out of bed and was focused only on what to wear. You looked in the mirror thinking about how you looked. You walked out the door leaving everything you love behind you. You spent the day working on and for you.
As you are looking for yourself it takes getting lost to be found. Getting lost in something you don't normally do. If you don't like talking in public, then talking in public is a prime example of something you should do to find yourself. Get lost people!
In order to stay motivated, you have to be motivated by something. Motivation is what keeps you motivated. Oh, this is so confusing! Let's simple it up a bit.
There are life events that make it hard for some people. Life events such as a death in the family. I agree these are hard times and depending on your beliefs, those feelings may continue with you. It's how you distribute your feelings that keep you in control. You can not let them consume your heart and soul.
Now starts the rest of your life! What do you want to do with it? I can not tell you what to do with your life! However, I can only show you what I do with mine. I'm nobody special! Although, it does make me furious when I see or hear people make an excuse not to have what they want. I mean come on! You want it, why not go get it? The only thing standing in your way is you!
Open your eyes the answers are right in front of you! You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make him drink. Many times I've seen people learn something they want to learn. They dreamed about it for a week after they learned this new information, whatever it may be. Then they don't do anything with it. If it can benefit you in any way, especially bettering yourself. You are a damn fool if you don't invest in it. Profit from it!