When you look fear in the face and give it the finger it can no longer consume you. Fear is just an emotion and like with any emotions you can control it. Take a deep breath and let’s begin facing our fears.


Believe it or not, I once feared the thought of being a father. I didn’t know what was in store for me during the pregnancy and it scared the hell out of me. I was going to be a father and there was nothing I could do about it. My life, my whole world was about to change.

As you may know, in pregnancy there is a period of three months known as a trimester and there are three trimesters. With each trimester I had a dream, the same dream each time. And inside that dream, I died. Talk about fear! I know what the dreams were telling me, although, at the time of the dreams I did not. After the birth of my daughter, the dreams never came back. It makes perfect sense now, the dream.

Where I once worked we use to blow up the side of a mountain. Some may not think of these mountains here in Oklahoma as mountains, they may consider them large hills, but we call them mountains. It was these mountains that appeared in my dream each time. I could not see these mountains from my house but in the dream, I was able to. I was always sitting in the dining room looking out the window at the mountains. Each time I would see a huge ship coming over the mountains and with the ship was water. The water carried the ship and everything on its path towards me until it took me with it. I would wake up from the dream each time after the water hit me. Three times I had that same dream and it never made any sense to me then.

I now know what the dream was telling me. The dream was my subconscious mind preparing me for a life changing event. Something I truly had no control over. When the water broke, my current life, as I know it would be over. I would be a father and I had to face the fact. Don’t get me wrong, I wanted to be a father. I was happy, am happy and will never regret it. Facing your fears is not the end but an end and a beginning to something new, a life changing event or chapter in your life. I may write something more about the dreams in the future but I wanted to use that portion to drive home that no matter what happens in your life, life goes on.

Fear is the unknown. We fear what we don’t know or don’t understand. Everyone has fear unless they are emotionless and there are people with no emotion, that’s another story. Fear keeps us safe and fear drives our ambitions. Face your fears and learn from your failures, because with facing your fears you are bound to fail but you will succeed and you will live. I was scared of what was coming, I had no idea how I was going to be a father. When the time came, I stepped up and took the part. I am a father and I will always face my fears.